I am writing this for my one real little sister and also for the many other young girls that I have come to “adopt” as part of my life in the last few years. If you consider yourself a sister of mine, this is for you. I don’t know if I have ever told you this or if you have ever heard it from a family member but this is TRUTH.
First of all you should know that you are BEAUTIFUL. If anyone tells you otherwise they do not deserve one second more of your attention. There is no one else on earth like you! Be proud and confident of who you are. It doesn’t matter what you wear, confidence and a smile will never go out of style.
You are talented! You were created with so many unique gifts and strengths. You were made to do great things. Use your imagination, DREAM BIG DREAMS! Don’t let anyone tell you that your dreams are foolish or too far to reach. Stay determined and focused but don’t be afraid of failure. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Don’t hold grudges or bitterness in your heart, it only hurts you. Be a girl full of grace and peace and love. Build bridges not walls. Help others, even those you think don’t deserve it.
If you don’t like where you are right now, think about the future! The future is yours. You get to decide what to do with it! Choose wisely. Ask God for wisdom, He will give it. Take advantage of this time you have now. Learn to love learning new things. The more you learn the more places you can go! I know you hate being stuck in school but one day you will appreciate the opportunity for an education.
You know that girl at school who spreads lies and rumors? She goes home and cries at night because she’s unhappy. Just think what it might be like to be in someone else’s shoes. Putting another person down never will make you happy or satisfied. It only creates a cycle of disrespect and insecurity. BE BIGGER THAN THAT. Don’t be part of the problem, be part of the solution. When you are in the midst of anger or sadness, lift your head up and see above the chaos. Stand tall and focus on something greater and better.
It is okay to cry. Don’t try to hold it in and be strong. Find someone you trust and TELL THEM. Let it out. Write it down. Scream. Run. Find a way to express yourself in a creative and healthy way.
Boys. Tough subject, eh? But a fun subject too! I know you have crushes and you dream of having that perfect boyfriend. I know your precious little heart just wants to be loved and cared for. Let me tell you: YOU ARE LOVED. Once you learn who you are and you learn to RESPECT YOURSELF you will never allow a boy to disrespect you. Don’t chase down guy after guy because you need attention. Remember that you are a princess and you deserve someone who fights for you and adores you.
I know you will ignore this but: you are young, don’t worry about dating. Focus on the important things like getting through jr. high and high school. Finding the person you spend the rest of your life with takes time and it is an important decision! Not a decision that most people make at fourteen. Don’t agree to date just any boy who asks. Have standards. Take it slow. Use wisdom. (remember, you asked God for it, right?) NEVER allow a boy to pressure you or mistreat you. Regardless of what you see or hear on tv, at school or at home, it is NEVER acceptable that a guy threatens you, hits you or speaks to you like you are worth less than the princess that you are. YOU ARE FAR TOO VALUABLE to waste your time on guys who do not appreciate you.
Remember that no one controls you. Only you can make decisions for yourself. You can choose to speak positive words. You can choose how to react in difficult situations. You can choose to say truth instead of lies. You can choose to stand up for goodness and purity and justice. You can choose who to listen to and who to believe…